Love !

Romantic love is beautiful and intoxicating , heart breaking Soul crushing, often all at the same time.

Why do we put ourselves through its emotional wringer ? Does love makes our lives meaning ful or it is a escape from our loneliness and suffering. Is love a disguise for our sexual desire, or a trick of biology to make us procreate ? Is it all we need ? Do we need it all ? If romantic love has a purpose neither science nor psychology has discovered it yet.

 

But over the course of history some of our most respected philosophers have put forward some intriguing theories. Love makes us whole again. The ancient greek philosopher Plato explored the idea that we love inorder to become incomplete. In his creation once he wrote a story that humans were once creatures with four arms four legs and two faces one day they angered the gods and Zeus silced them all in two. Since then every person has been missing half of him or herself. Love is the longing to find a soul mate who will makes us fell whole again. That's what Plato believed. Love tricks us into having babies. Much much later german philosopher Arthur Schopenhauer maintained that love based in sexual desire was a voluptuous illusion.

 

He suggested that we love beacuse our desires lead us to believe that another person will make us happy but we are sorely mistaken. Nature is tricking us into procreating and the loving fusion we seek is consummated in our children. When our sexual desires are satisfied. We are thrown back into our tormented existences and we succeed only in maintaining the species and perputating the cycle of human drudgery. Love is escape a from our loneliness. We love in order to quench our physical and psychological desires. Humans are designed to procreate  but without the ecstasy of passionate love sex is unsatisfying. Our fear of cold cruel world tempts us to build hard shells to protect and isolate ourselves. Love's delight intimacy and warmth helps us to overcome our fear of the world and engage more abundantly in life. Love enriches our whole being making it the best thing in life. Love lets us reach beyond ourselves.

 

The French Philosopher Simone de Beauvior proposed that love is desire to integrate with another and that infuses our lives with meaning. The problem with traditional romantic love is it can be so captivating that we are tempted to make it our only reason for being. It easily leads to boredom and anger. To avoid this trap Beauvior advised loving authentically which is more like a great friendship. Lovers support each other in discovering themselves reaching beyond themselves and enriching their lives and the world together.

Though we might never know why we fall in love we can be certain that it will be an emotional rollercoaster ride. Its scary and exhilarating. It makes us suffer and makes us soar. Maybe we lose ourselves. Maybe we find ourselves. It might be  heart breaking or it might just be the best thing in life. Will you dare to find out your love leave in Comments !